This is an invitation to learn about the essential Shadow Work facilitation skills and how to use them for yourself, your family, and in your community. The process we invite you to join will be intense, enjoyable and practical and will take you behind the scenes so that you can understand the thinking we employ while facilitating.
Shadow Work provides powerful tools for bringing out of the shadow and into the light whatever parts of yourself you have split off, repressed, denied, or disowned. In this way, you have more capacity, balance, and choice with which to live your life. Our desire is that you will discover how to use the power of ritual space to use these tools for doing that consistently with yourself and others. The scope of what you can expect to get out of this training is enormous and includes:
- A solid grounding in the basic Shadow Work facilitation skills, using the Shadow Work Four-Quarter Model.
- A powerful experience of your own personal growth.
- Insights about facilitation: our “chop wood, carry water” approach takes you behind the scenes. We will show you how we harness our shadows to make us better facilitators.
- A tool kit of professional coaching skills that you can apply yourself, at home or in your community.
WHO SHOULD ATTEND
Persons who want one or more of the following:
- To enhance their own personal growth.
- To learn Shadow Work tools for personal or professional application.
- To become accomplished Shadow Work group facilitators.
It is recommended that you attend a Shadow Work weekend or the equivalent before attending the Basic Facilitator Training. Equivalents include Women In Power, the New Warrior Training Adventure, Woman Within, the Inner King Training, the Inner Sovereign Leadership Training, and the Priestess Path.
This training draws a rich diversity of people, including educators, therapists, group leaders, writers, lawyers, organizational development consultants, and others dedicated to their own personal and professional growth.
THE BASIC STEPS OF SHADOW WORK FACILITATION
- How to build a safe, non-shaming container: creating safety in yourself, your facilitating, and your participants.
- How to communicate clearly and cleanly without shaming the listener or yourself, using Quarter Talk.
- How to facilitate processes for friends and clients using the four energies.
- How to put the participant first: Honoring the participant’s desired outcomes and risk levels throughout the process.
- How to get started: Splitting out the parts, getting a triangle, regressing the split, and setting a direction for the process.
- The What’s At Risk Process: Seven steps to honoring the participant’s Risk Manager, to support a participant who does not trust something about the process, the facilitator, the container, or the group.
- How to recognize a participant who has been wounded in a group process.
- How to facilitate a participant who doesn’t know what he/she wants.
- How to support the “perfectionist” or “special” participant who wants to shine or be perfect.
- How to determine an effective direction for the process; whether to choose a specific Sovereign, Lover, Magician, or Warrior process; how to offer a menu of choices, and an experiential rationale for making the best decision.
- How to notice overlays in the participant’s story, and how their first words permeate the whole process.
- How to handle a participant experiencing flashback or overflowing emotions: steps to a successful Metaphorical Pull-Out process.
- The powerful Switch process: how to move a participant from one body state or emotional state to another.
- How to use the power of the shadow reversal process to assist the participant who is “stuck.”
GETTING TO KNOW YOUR SHADOW AS A FACILITATOR
We believe that being able to recognize and use your own shadows while facilitating is one of the greatest challenges of facilitating and also one of its greatest rewards. In this training you will learn how to recognize your own shadows as they appear during facilitation, how to recognize your co-facilitator’s shadows, and how to use these to help you navigate the process rather than have the shadows in hiding. Other shame-free behaviors you will learn:
- How to ritualize a process out of the here-and-now reality.
- How to distinguish between open and closed questions.
- How to avoid ritually abusing a participant.
- How to set boundaries and agree on confidentiality.
- How to communicate four-directionally in important situations.
- How to learn to love yourself in your shadow.
- How to recognize your facilitator shadows in all four Quarters.
- How to facilitate yourself when you are emotionally filled to the brim.
- How to evaluate your instincts: determining what’s for you and what’s for the participant.
- How to get out of a facilitator’s “hot spot.”
- How to use your intuition to deepen the process, assess risk levels, and evolve “juicy” part splits.
THE BASIC PROCESSES IN ALL FOUR QUARTERS
In this training, you will learn how to recognize the underlying wounds in each of the four Quarters and how to facilitate the basic Shadow Work processes to address those wounds. (Click Below to expand each heading to see more)
- The importance of slow pacing with Sovereign tools.
- Why the participant manifesting Sovereign wounds replicates betrayal in their life.
- How to use Immediate Support, and when and how to bring in Ideal Support.
- How to work in support when it isn’t well received.
- What to do when a participant tries to do the process perfectly.
- The master tool, What’s At Risk: why, when, and how to use it.
- How to draw out and bless the participant’s Risk Manager.
- How to work from outside the circle, for the participant who may have been wounded in a group.
- What to do when a participant doesn’t know something.
- How and when to use the Trust Fall.
- How to recap, and when to pause for a teaching moment.
- How to know whether to use Lover or Magician tools.
- How to read body language.
- How to use “close your eyes and feel it in your body.”.
- How to create a “container within a container” for the Inner Child.
- The importance of screening participants with history of flashback.
- How to deal with flashbacks about physical, sexual or ritual abuse.
- When to elicit more detail, and when not to.
- When to use the Metaphorical Pull-Out Process to extract abusive energy safely.
- The special use and pacing of words during processes in this Quarter.
- The importance of safety both for the participant and the group.
- Why Warrior processes use support from the other Quarters.
- How to use goals, boundaries and safety to create a more powerful process.
- How to use the Shadow Reversal process.
- Three ways to bolster a flagging Warrior process using the other Quarters.
- How to get those juicy lines that draw out Warrior energy.
- How to distinguish between male and female Warrior dynamics.
ENDING THE PROCESS
- How to anchor the work in the participant.
- How to use metaphors and affirmations.
- How to celebrate the process.
- The importance of self-care and nurturing for the participant.
- How to handle de-roling and grounding the process.
USING YOUR INTUITION
Within the basic recipe for Shadow Work, there is a lot of room for using your intuitive skills, and we will teach you how and when to use your intuition:
- Spotting overlays during the initial check-in, and recognizing their possible effect on the participant’s process.
- Using overlays to help you navigate the process.
- Using “What would you like to have happen?” at crucial points in the process.Avoiding representing the participant’s outcome too early in the process.
- Proven tips for getting effective splits and evolving them.
- How to determine the direction, depth and risk level of the process.
- How to help the participant who is foggy, numb or stuck while you are regressing the split.
Didactic sessions: Mini-talks where we present (and welcome your questions on) basic concepts, tools, considerations, challenges, cautions, and tips for successful Shadow Work facilitating.
Centerwork pieces: You can do your own personal issue work in a centerwork piece facilitated by your colleagues and closely coached by us.
Practice tools: Brief exercises where you practice using the tools or segments of a tool.
Practice sessions: You have the opportunity to facilitate one of your colleagues in a centerwork piece where you and your co-facilitator decide your strategy based on what your participant wants to have happen.
Supportive feedback: Group and trainer feedback on your facilitating, focusing on what you do well and right, and framing improvement areas in loving, honoring ways.
Co-facilitation teamwork: We model co-facilitation issues by openly sharing our own internal process as we facilitate, and you learn to facilitate with a co-facilitator in a synergy where 1 + 1 = 3+.
Loving acceptance: Specific check-ins and other activities illustrating the practice of compassionate, respectful support.
- Training videos: Two home-study DVDs demonstrating 16 different Shadow Work processes.
- Reference Manual: 260+-page Basic Facilitator Training Manual full of checklists, process protocols, and session scripts.
- CD: A copy of the Shadow Work Basics CD explaining the beliefs underlying Shadow Work.
- Container modeling: The training leaders share their internal processes and thoughts as they model safe container-building.
- Shame-free, safe container: Rarely will you experience such loving support for experimenting, practicing and learning.
- Small class size: The small participant-to-trainer ratio enables concentrated, experiential coaching as you practice.
- Chunked-down practice sessions: Practice small chunks of processes before doing a full Centerwork piece.
After reserving your place in the training, you will receive the Shadow Work Basic Facilitator Training Manual and two DVDs demonstrating and explaining the basic Shadow Work® facilitation tools. (If you already have these materials, your BFT tuition will be credited with the amount you paid for the training materials.) We ask you to study these before you attend the training. At the training, we ask only that you focus on learning to honor and love yourself as you participate in both the practice and real Shadow Work® processes we will coach. After attending this training, you are eligible for the Advanced Facilitator Training.
Maximum enrollment, each training: 8 persons (first come, first served).
Schedule: The training lasts 6, 7 or 8 days depending on enrollment. Daily sessions are 9:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. with a break for lunch and ending with dinner. Please arrive at 8:15 a.m. on the first day of training to complete your registration. Full details in training packet sent to you upon registration.
For training dates and costs, see the Calendar of Events.